Thursday, January 24, 2013

Home improvement project story ideas sought | The Morrison ...

Posted on January 22, 2013 at 1:13 pm

The Record publishes a spring home and garden section in March and again in April.

If you, or someone you know in the Morrison County area, has completed or started a home improvement project (including landscaping projects) that might make an interesting story or offer helpful advice for readers, please call Terry at the Record office, 320-632-2345 or e-mail terry.lehrke@mcrecord.com.

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Source: http://mcrecord.com/2013/01/22/home-improvement-project-story-ideas-sought/

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Monday, January 21, 2013

Love Of Family & Home: Dog Days of Winter "Thrift It" Party

Hey Friends!!

I hope you all had a great weekend!!

Well, it's Monday again & that means it's time to kick-off another Dog Days of Winter Project Challenge!! This week is our "Thrift It" Challenge & we are sharing our up-cycled thrift store, yard sale, craiglist, found it on the side of the road, THRIFTY FINDS!!! We can't wait to see your projects!!

In case you missed it, yesterday I shared my project for the challenge. A goodwill dresser makeover that I did for my mom....

To view that post & get some furniture painting tips, click HERE.

My sweet & talented friends also shared their upcycled thrifty finds!! Be sure to click on the links to check out their FABULOUS projects!!!


Just a few rules before we get started:

1. Please only link-up THRIFTY FINDS that you've up-cycled or made new.?

2. Feel free to link up old and/or new projects!

3. Please use the party button below in your post or include a text link back to the blog where you linked up.?(Only those that link back will be featured)

4. Party Hop!! Please visit a few of the links & leave them some comment love!

5. We will be sharing some of our favorites on our Pinterest board. Be sure to follow it HERE.
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So, it's your turn!! Show us what you've got!!!




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Gillmor Gang: It?s Only Love

gillmor-gang-test-pattern_excerptThe Gillmor Gang ? Danny Sullivan, Robert Scoble, John Taschek, Kevin Marks, and Steve Gillmor ? have some fun with Facebook's new GraphSearch and advances in medical techniques. We all agree that when Facebook says it's not about search, well, it's all about search. Should Google be quaking in its boots as @scobleizer shows the Jets and Giants parking lot in the post season that is Google+, or does Foursquare get its oxygen cut off by the Facebook hoards looking for a good restaurant?

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Sunday, January 13, 2013

Workshop recap: Peruvian Cooking Experience | Bowen App?tit!

When we first started planning our trip, I had visions of learning how to cook traditional foods wherever we?d go. In South America these visions consisted of images like me and a well-worn abuela, making empanadas. Me and an Argentinian butcher, grilling up all those cuts of beef I?d never heard of before. Me and a Chilean fishmonger, me and a Peruvian potato farmer, so on and so forth. Heads together, laughing, eating, poking fun at each other, exchanging knowledge (in a mostly one-way exchange, let?s be honest). But I?m not exactly sure where I thought I?d find these people; people with time and patience to spare and the interest in opening up their homes, their businesses, and/or their kitchens to teach a gringo how to make their traditional food. People who I?d be comfortable enough with to poke fun at. Now that I?ve been to some of these places, the thought is hilarious at best and embarrassing at worst. Also, I probably should have taken into consideration the consistently recurring fact that?I don?t speak Spanish.?Brett does a wonderful job translating for shopkeepers and hotel receptionists and flight attendants, but that only goes so far and gets pretty exasperating after even the shortest of exchanges.

And thus it was that, with only a tiny bit of logic and reasoning, my dreams of picture-perfect, authentic,?intimate South American cooking lessons were bashed.

So in the absence left behind, I?ve sought out tourist cooking classes as we?ve planned each city ? entirely touristy, yes, and almost certainly of the sort that merely guide you through a couple of recipes and send you on your way, but still a chance for me to ask questions about the food and get answers from people who at least somewhat know what they?re talking about.

But ? it turns out these sorts of classes aren?t as common or as affordable as they are in other parts of the world (I?m looking at you, Southeast Asia ?), and in each city I?d come up empty-handed. Until Arequ?pa, Peru, that is. In Arequ?pa, I found one that was even better than I could have hoped for, a three-part workshop designed by the owner of our hotel, who used to be a professional chef, and set in the hotel?s beautiful outdoor courtyard.?

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For 65 soles each (usually 75 ? staying at the hotel gives you a 10 soles discount), Brett and I spent six hours learning about the food and drink of the Arequ?pa area. We opted for all three optional parts of the workshop ? a guided tour of Arequ?pa?s central market, a three-course cooking class, and a pisco class, including a lecture on the origins and uses of the liquor and a lesson in making pisco sours. As someone who spends a lot of time in the kitchen and generally knows her way around a cooking class, I wasn?t honestly expecting to learn much more than a few new recipes and maybe a few new fruits and vegetables at the market ? but I actually came away with much more than that and would definitely recommend the experience for anyone spending time in that part of Peru. (Also, Arequ?pa was an entirely lovely city and the hotel was fantastic ? a perfect place to lay low for five days around New Years, especially after the touristy chaos of Cusco and Puno/Lake Titicaca.)

At 10 a.m., our group assembled for a tour of the market, four blocks from the hotel. It was New Year?s Eve and the area around the market was bustling with people picking up supplies for parties and celebrations that evening, everyone with armfuls of garlands and party hats and packets of confetti, all bright yellow to bring luck in the new year. And if the area outside the market was crowded, the market building itself was stuffed to the gills with people. People buying food, people buying cloth, people buying good luck charms and herbal remedies to bring in the new year. First thing, our guide walked us to the mezzanine on the second level, a quick escape from the crowds so she could show us the general layout of the market and explain where we?d be going. We then descended into the madness, stopping in a selection of market sections so our guide couple point out or explain things we saw and buy us a few things to try.

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Our first stop was the potato section ? one entire aisle of potato vendors, each seller dwarfed by massive mountains of potatoes piled onto tables and onto the ground. As anyone who?s spent time in Peru can tell you, the variety and volume of potatoes available is overwhelming ? black potatoes, white potatoes, neon red potatoes, purple, yellow, pink, blue, and every other color you can think of. There were huge potatoes with waxy skins and long potatoes with rough, bark-like skins; sweet potatoes and starchy potatoes and everything in between. There are over 3,500 varieties of potatoes in Peru, and I wouldn?t be surprised if we saw a good portion of them that day.

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In the fruit section, our guide quizzed us on a variety of Peruvian fruits, the vast majority none of our group had ever seen or heard of before ? ?tomato fruit? and cocona and lucuma and the like. We tasted cactus fruit and the subtle Arequ?pe?a papaya, and picked out mangoes and a pale, thin-skinned melon to have for dessert at the end of the cooking class.

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We tasted coconut sweets and learned about Arequ?pa?s traditional three-cornered bread, joked with a man selling frogs (dried or live), stood in awe at the massive, lacy nets of orange roe hung out to dry, and saw an entire pig butchered to order. Like other South American markets we?ve visited, there were precarious towers of cheese wheels, barrels of grains and flours of all colors and types, and booths packed with cans and boxes and bottles of everything from tuna to dried pasta to rose water.

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We certainly could have walked around the market on our own, but having a guide meant we knew what we were seeing, and it gave us a fantastic excuse to linger at booths, shamelessly taking photos and staring at things and asking questions.

Back at the hotel?s outdoor kitchen, our group of 10 quickly got to work on our meal. First was ceviche, served in the traditional style with boiled sweet potatoes, boiled corn, and crunchy fried corn (boiled corn is more traditional in the south, fried corn in the north, but we were provided both to see what we liked more ? I preferred boiled). We chopped and combined everything for the ceviche under the direction of our instructor, who explained the importance of the various ingredients and all of the ways ceviche might be served in various places. My previous experience with ceviche had all been with the Mexican variety, and from what I can tell the main difference with Peruvian ceviche is that it often includes a fish broth-based liquid called ?tiger?s milk,? containing a bit of all of the non-fish ingredients in the ceviche (e.g. onions, celery, chilis) pureed together with fish broth. Many cevicher?as offer small glasses of tiger?s milk on the menu, and it?s widely considered to be an aphrodisiac. (Or so I hear.)

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After we gorged ourselves on our ceviche creations and bottles of Arequ?pe?a beer, we moved onto our second dish ? pescado ala macho, a fried white fish served with creamy, peppery seafood sauce and white rice. Before dredging our fish in flour for frying, we coated each piece with pureed garlic, a genius move I am certain to take home with me. In pairs we fried our own fish and made our own seafood sauce, a silky smooth and flavorful thing made with garlic, onion, brilliantly flavorful pepper sauces, fish broth, pisco (which we flamb?ed), cream, and chunks of local seafood including octopus and mussels (and some other things we were unable to identify-via-translation beyond their Spanish names). It was fresh and powerfully flavorful, and we all congratulated ourselves and toasted to our success.

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After our second course no one was sure we?d be able to eat any more, so thankfully our dessert was just a small cup of the mango and melon that we had picked out at the market that morning. Both were perfectly ripe and sweet, and a perfect way to end the meal.

After lunch, those of us who wanted to stay for the pisco part of the workshop headed upstairs to join Armando, the owner of the hotel, to learn about pisco and make some pisco sours. ?There?s a lot to know about Peru?s most famous liquor, and we learned about how it began (a grappa alternative, and something to do with grapes that didn?t make very good wine), all of the various types (from various regions of the country and of significantly different flavors), modern pisco-related political issues (pisco from Chile is not the same as Pisco from Peru), how to pick out good pisco at the store (for instance: clear bottles mean better pisco), and the complex rituals around giving pisco as a gift (including: never wrap the bottle in anything, and be ready to drink!). Armando is incredibly knowledgeable about the food and drink of the Arequ?pa area (and Peru overall), and it was fascinating to learn more about the history and current issues surrounding Peru?s culinary world.

After learning all about pisco, it was time for tasting and making cocktails. Armando provided acholado pisco (one of the three dominant types), and we tasted a bit on its own before making two rounds of pisco sours. A pisco sour is a fairly straight-forward drink ? pisco, lime, and sugar (in something around the classic 3:1:1 cocktail ratio, depending on how sweet or sour you like it), shaken with an egg white until foamy and topped with a dash or two of Angostura bitters on top once strained into a glass. There are various ways to play around with the recipe and once we?re home I?m sure to work on something and post our favorite method here.

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Taking this workshop certainly doesn?t mean I?m well-versed in traditional Peruvian cuisine, but it certainly brought me a bit closer. It was well worth the money spent, and I?m looking forward to bringing the information into my own kitchen and into future classes.

After the cocktails, Brett and I stayed around to chat with Armando for a bit, and ended up with an invitation to join him for lunch later in the week. He toured us around the city a bit and took us to one of his favorite Arequ?pa restaurants, far off the tourist trail. For a few hours we chatted about food and life in Peru, and gorged ourselves on fava beans, fried cheese, lamb stew, and roast suckling pig, washed down with chica (a very traditional slightly alcoholic beverage made from fermented purple corn) and followed up with queso helado (a cinnamon and coconut dessert akin to a combination of ice cream and granita). It was definitely one of best meals we?ve had in South America, and a great opportunity to learn more about Peruvian cuisine. (Thanks again to Armando and his hospitality in showing around two low-budget gringos with big appetites.)

For more information about this workshop, check out the websites for Peruvian Cooking Experience and for?Casa de Avila.

Source: http://bowenappetit.com/2013/01/13/workshop-recap-peruvian-cooking-experience/

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FDA Warnings For Actos Bladder Cancer Came Too Late For Some

Given the prevalence of Type 2 diabetes in the US the need for, and use of medication to control the condition for those individuals unable to manage their diabetes through natural means, is a foregone conclusion. And while rare is a medication that does not have a basket of side effects, Actos patients thinking they were doing the right thing in managing their diabetes would have been shocked to learn of Actos side effects that had the potential for ending their lives prematurely.

FDA Warnings For Actos Bladder Cancer Came Too Late For SomeActos heart failure is one such adverse reaction. The risk for cardiovascular events has always been a known factor involving Actos, although the risk was thought to be lower than some of Takeda Pharmaceutical's competitors, including GlaxoSmithKline's Avandia.

Actos bladder cancer, until recently, was not on the radar.

It is now. Actos has been banned in two countries due to the bladder cancer risk. And the US Food and Drug Administration (FDA) in June 2011 issued a warning with regard to Actos and bladder cancer, citing a study that found use of Actos for more than one year translated to a 40 percent risk for bladder cancer.

That warning came too late for the deceased man at the center of a lawsuit filed November 16 of last year in US District Court for the Eastern District of Louisiana, Lafayette Division. The Actos bladder cancer lawsuit is part of the Actos multidistrict litigation (MDL No. 6:11-md-2299) and was filed in behalf of the man's widow.

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The complaint alleges the man, whose identity was not published, started on Actos for Type 2 diabetes in 2004. After taking Actos continuously for five years, the man developed bladder cancer in 2009 and passed away in October 2010.

The man's use of Actos to treat his diabetes over a period of five years is four years longer than the FDA recommendation, in order to avoid a dramatic risk of bladder cancer. The man died a year before that warning was issued, and was diagnosed with bladder cancer two years prior.

The Actos lawsuit claims the man would never have consented to use Actos had he and his wife been aware of the potential for grievous side effects. To that end, it is a common refrain amongst Actos lawsuits that plaintiffs were not aware of the risks, and blame Takeda for either failing to be aware of the risks, or failure to inform about risks known to them.

The Actos bladder cancer lawsuit is Case No. 6:12-cv-02886-RFD-PJH.

Source: http://www.lawyersandsettlements.com/articles/18370/actos-bladder-cancer-side-effects-46.html?ref=rss

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Saturday, January 12, 2013

Strahan, Sapp, Ogden among Hall of Fame finalists

CANTON, Ohio (AP) ? Single-season sacks leader Michael Strahan and two players who tried to block him are among 15 modern-era finalists for the Pro Football Hall of Fame.

Strahan, who had 22? sacks in 2001 and 141? for his 15-year his career with the New York Giants, is joined by offensive tackle Jonathan Ogden of the Ravens and guard-tackle Larry Allen of the Cowboys and 49ers.

The fourth first-year eligible to make the cut is defensive tackle Warren Sapp of the Buccaneers and Raiders.

Strahan, Ogden and Sapp all won Super Bowls.

The hall announced Friday that the other finalists are running back Jerome Bettis; receivers Cris Carter, Tim Brown and Andre Reed; LB-DEs Charles Haley and Kevin Greene; guard Will Shields; defensive back Aeneas Williams; coach Bill Parcells; and former owners Edward DeBartolo Jr. of the 49ers and the late Art Modell of the Browns, who moved to Baltimore in 1996 to become the Ravens.

The two senior nominees are defensive tackle Curley Culp ? who played for the Chiefs, Oilers and Lions ? and linebacker Dave Robinson of the Packers and Redskins.

Between four and seven new members will be selected Feb. 2, the day before the Super Bowl, in New Orleans.

Bettis played for the Rams and Steelers ? he won the 2006 Super Bowl in his final game, something Strahan did in 2008. He's in his third season of eligibility and was beaten out by fellow running backs Marshall Faulk in 2011 and Curtis Martin in 2012 for the hall.

Carter, Brown and Reed all were in the top 10 in receptions when they retired. Haley won five Super Bowls, two with San Francisco and three with Dallas.

Greene was one of the first hybrid linebacker-end defenders, which best suited his pass-rushing skills.

Shields was an ironman blocker for 14 seasons in Kansas City. Williams was a versatile defensive back who played on the corner and at safety. He had 55 career interceptions and 23 fumble recoveries.

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Online: http://pro32.ap.org/poll and http://twitter.com/AP_NFL

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/strahan-sapp-ogden-among-hall-fame-finalists-151804993--nfl.html

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How To Disable Java in Your Browser

Java isn't good for your for your computer's health right now. It can mess it up pretty bad. Bad enough that the Department of Homeland Security is warning us all to turn it off. OK, but how do you do that? Fortunately, it's not that hard. More »


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Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Hold the diet soda? Sweetened drinks linked to depression, coffee ...

New research suggests that drinking sweetened beverages, especially diet drinks, is associated with an increased risk of depression in adults while drinking coffee was tied to a slightly lower risk. The study was released today and will be presented at the American Academy of Neurology's 65th Annual Meeting in San Diego, March 16 to 23, 2013.

"Sweetened beverages, coffee and tea are commonly consumed worldwide and have important physical?and may have important mental?health consequences," said study author Honglei Chen, MD, PhD, with the National Institutes of Health in Research Triangle Park in North Carolina and a member of the American Academy of Neurology.

The study involved 263,925 people between the ages of 50 and 71 at enrollment. From 1995 to 1996, consumption of drinks such as soda, tea, fruit punch and coffee was evaluated. About 10 years later, researchers asked the participants whether they had been diagnosed with depression since the year 2000. A total of 11,311 depression diagnoses were made.

People who drank more than four cans or cups per day of soda were 30 percent more likely to develop depression than those who drank no soda. Those who drank four cans of fruit punch per day were about 38 percent more likely to develop depression than those who did not drink sweetened drinks. People who drank four cups of coffee per day were about 10 percent less likely to develop depression than those who drank no coffee. The risk appeared to be greater for people who drank diet than regular soda, diet than regular fruit punches and for diet than regular iced tea.

"Our research suggests that cutting out or down on sweetened diet drinks or replacing them with unsweetened coffee may naturally help lower your depression risk," said Chen. "More research is needed to confirm these findings, and people with depression should continue to take depression medications prescribed by their doctors."

Provided by American Academy of Neurology

Source: http://medicalxpress.com/news/2013-01-diet-soda-sweetened-linked-depression.html

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Viewsonic VSD240 Smart Display eyes-on

Viewsonic VST240

Android Central @ CES

Best known for making displays for computers, Viewsonic is showing off the new version of its "Smart Display" line, the VSD240, at CES 2013. You'll here Phil say it at the start of the video -- you really can't call this a tablet. Viewsonic is positioning this as a display that you can use for your computer or other device, but just have Android available for when you want it. It's a 24-inch 1920x1080 multitouch display, with a full array of ports on the back for connectivity -- from USB to HDMI. Viewsonic tells us that the final model will be available with a DVI pass-through as well, which will let you power another display out of it.

On the Android side, we're pretty much just looking at a "tablet" install of Jelly Bean 4.1, with not very many customizations that we could see. Pulling up the keyboard is quite comical, actually, as it's just the tablet one scaled up. We're looking at a 1.7GHz Tegra 3 chip powering this thing, and it seemed quite fast especially compared to the previous model. There's also 16GB of storage on-board, which is nice.

Viewsonic expects this to come to market under $500, which is pretty competitive for a large multitouch monitor even without a full install of Android on it. Stick around after the break to see a quick eyes- and hands-on with the Smart Display, as well as a quick shot of the port selection on the back.

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Tuesday, January 8, 2013

4 Must Have Books For Homeschooling Parents | Work at Home ...

Every homeschooling parent knows that a well stocked library is one of their greatest assets. In addition to great pieces of literature and reference books, however, there are also wonderful books on the topic of homeschooling itself that are must have additions to the family library. Here are four that I consider to be must reads.

100 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum by Cathy Duffy

One of the most important decisions you?ll make as a homeschooling parent is finding the right curriculum. You want one that matches your educational philosophy and that also works with your child?s learning style. The trouble is the dizzying array of curriculums available. This book makes this process of picking one among the many available choices so much easier. It?s a must read for parents at the start of their homeschool journey or for any homeschooling parent who wants to make a change in their home education.

Susan Wise Bauer?s Story of The World

Susan Wise Bauer is the author of several books on classical homeschooling. Her Story of the World series are well loved by home educators. They help parents create a living history experience for children and I enjoy them too, which is no small thing considering history was my least favorite subject in school! The Story of the World books also have companion workbooks for those who wish to employ them alongside the volumes. These would be especially helpful for older children and teens.

John Holt?s Teach Your Own

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Indian soldier "mutilated" after gunfight with Pakistan troops: Indian general

An Australian woman was awoken by her hissing cat early Sunday to find a python wrapped around the arm of her 2-year-old daughter. Tess Guthrie, a 22-year-old from Lismore, New South Wales, said the 6-foot python was wrapped three times around her daughter's arm. "I thought I was having a nightmare," Guthrie told a local [...]

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Friday, January 4, 2013

Real Talk: I Love My Marriage, But Hated My Engagement | xoJane

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I'm unnerved by our materialistic wedding culture, blah blah blah, but I still love my rings. Yay for cognitive dissonance.

?Engagement season? has just ended. If you're in your late twenties like me, your Facebook feed is likely now festooned with ring pics and red heart icons. Celebrities have joined the party, too, getting engaged (and in some cases married) this holiday season: Kelly Clarkson! Hugh Hefner! Kat von D and Jesse James, only this time to other people!?

Mazel tov, suckers. God, am I glad I'm not you.?

I was recently engaged for 14 months. During that time, I learned a secret they never tell you on StyleMePretty: engagements fucking suck. They?re also joyful and fun, but there?s a lot more suck involved than you?d expect.?

Frankly, now that I?m married, I?d rather zest my nipples with the citrus zester I got off my bridal registry than go through it all again. If you're just embarking on the experience now, you have my sympathies.

If you're with the right person, planning a wedding is a profound and wonderful thing to do. But then again, so is appearing on A&E?s ?Hoarders,? if you?re a hoarder. You might feel a rush when you first commit -- your life is about to CHANGE! For the BETTER! -- and you might be thrilled with the end result. But in between, you're in for a whoooole lotta screaming, clinging to your pile of desiccated rat corpses as Dr. Zasio half-heartedly pats you on the back.

Engagement is a time of monumental transition. You?re redefining your relationship not just with your fianc?, but also with your family, your friends, yourself, your personal space, your dreams and ambitions -- everything. Whoever can face such profound change without at least a twinge of anxiety and grief, please tell me what drug you?re on, because I want some.?

In my case, engagement involved a lot of happy moments, but also:?

  1. Trolling message boards such as the now-defunct ThereGoesTheBride.com, consuming broken-engagement stories like pornography.?
  2. Getting into a screaming, sobbing fight with my mother -- about cake filling! -- at a Father?s Day brunch, while my father looked on in horror.?
  3. Getting into another screaming, sobbing fight with my best friend from college as we drove through downtown Washington -- a fight so engrossing that I drove straight into a parked car.?
  4. In general, a lot of screaming and sobbing, although remarkably not with my fianc?.
  5. Miserable compromises.?
  6. Carbohydrates.?

On the whole, I spent 20% of my engagement feeling elated, 20% feeling prostrate with anxiety and grief, and 60% feeling normal. This unnerved me, because it seemed like about the same ratio Pam from ?The Office? felt when she was engaged to the guy who wasn?t Jim. When you?re marrying the right person, you?re happy all the time -- right? Because the One makes you happy! Panic is your gut telling you to get out! Right??

Not necessarily. After months of misery, with the help of Allison Moir-Smith?s excellent book Emotionally Engaged, I realized that my anxiety was not the result of a bad relationship. Mostly, it was there because I have been neurotic and change-averse my entire life, and -- surprise! -- nothing about my brain chemistry changed after my boyfriend proposed to me.?

However, my anxiety also materialized because I was blindsided by the real work of engagement. After I coped with the shock, I did that work -- much of it in a therapist?s office, yay -- and as a result of that and two kickass wedding planners, my wedding day was every happy cliche come true. My marriage has also been fabulous so far. ?

Nevertheless, my engagement can go fuck itself.?

These days, when I talk to a newly engaged woman, I like to ask her if there?s something she?s already sick of hearing from well-wishers. Even the most easygoing bride usually has something -- some question or comment that irritates her because she feels she can?t reply to it honestly, or else she?ll fail to live up to her culturally-cast role as the happy bride-to-be.?

Mine was this: ?Are you excited? Are you so excited??? I heard it at least once a day. Often, my true answer was ?meh? or an emphatic ?no,? but I?d lie and say ?yes? to fulfill the expectations of the questioner. Then I?d feel like a gigantic fraud.?

Kendra, a newly married woman who works on my floor, hated, ?Can I see the ring??, as the asker?s face would usually shift in surprise or disappointment when they saw her unusual stone.

She also mentioned how annoying it was to hear, ?What are your colors?? all the time, as did two other women I talked to. When someone asks that question, what is the asker hoping to hear in reply? Do they really care? Who has ?colors? anymore, anyway, is what I want to know -- but will I offend someone by saying that?

The word ?bridezilla? drives most newly engaged women up the wall, as does any expressed disdain for the amount of emotion they might or might not have invested in things such as the cake, the invitations, and the flowers. These things can represent much more than meets the eye. They are the talismans of engagement, which, as I've said, is not so much a fun party-planning time as a painful metamorphosis ritual. Respect them accordingly.

M., a book club friend, is getting married on April 20 in Colorado. (Her description of the ?Rocky Mountain High? jokes she?s been receiving featured seven sarcastic exclamation points.)

In addition to the usual about colors and aesthetics, one of M.?s pet peeves is when people ask her, in reference to her fiance?s proposal, ?Were you surprised?? ?

?That?s sort of a bitch to answer either way,? she wrote to me. ?The truth is that I have a crazy brain that knows how to feel multiple things at the same time. And all of them are true. (Sort of like everyone?s brains, yeah? Yes? Are we all on the same page here?). So, yeah. I was shocked. I screamed. I cried. I yawped my YES! and then made out with him on some rocks while gasping for breath -- again -- out of shock. Also, no, I was not surprised.?

M. is referring to something that every married woman I know experienced during engagement: cognitive dissonance. The instant you get engaged, you start experiencing yourself as an individual and a wife, a present and a future self, a person who is happy and sad and surprised and angry and excited. You?re in a cuckoo purgatory -- mentally, emotionally, physically, culturally. The experience is so disorienting, it literally gave me the spins a couple of times. But nothing I read or saw on TV told me this was normal, save Moir-Smith?s book. If I wasn?t happy, I thought, that must mean I was ?a bridezilla. Or a cautionary tale-to-be.

God. Yuck. I think I?m getting a rash just thinking back on it now. NEVER AGAIN.

Source: http://www.xojane.com/relationships/real-talk-i-love-my-marriage-but-hated-my-engagement

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jazz: 2013 Chili Bowl | Ellington-Somers Sports & Recreation Events ...

Saturday, February 2, 2013, 6:00 pm

Deer Valley Townhomes, 155 Windermere Ave, Ellington, CT | Get?Directions??
$20.00

2013 Chili Bowl

Join the Friends of Ellington Tennis as we host our 2013 Chili Bowl, on Saturday, February 2nd, 6-10 p.m. (the night before the big game), at the Deer Valley Clubhouse. Wear your favorite team?s colors, or make and enter your best chili for a chance to win our big prize (not a trip to Disney
World), or just come join your friends for a night out to break the winter doldrums.

Tickets are $20 each, and $5 per child, and include your
entry, some great chili and snacks, billiards, pool, and beer/wine. Tickets are available at Five Corners Wine & Spirits and Little House in the Country Childcare.
For more information write fofellingtontennis@snet.net
or call 860-462-3627. ?

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2013 Chili Bowl

February 2, 2013, 6:00 pm?10:00 pm

Deer Valley Townhomes

155 Windermere Ave, Ellington, CT

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Source: http://ellington-somers.patch.com/events/2013-chili-bowl

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Creating the World?s Largest Light Painting

Last year, Michael Bosanko created what is reportedly the world's largest ever light painting. This video shows how he did it. More »


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